Thursday, October 22, 2009

Underminers

What is it with people who want to suck the joy out of your successes and make you feel like you are a three year old who just wrote on the wall with a Sharpie?  I know how that part feels- except it was green crayon, and my brother Steven did it when we were kids, but blamed me. In the end we both got in trouble, and that was before parents chose to speak to their kids instead of paddle them.

I am really trying to get to the root of it. When you announce something really exciting, why do they do the opposite of encourage?  Because...

They fear the unknown.
They don't understand, but can't ask intelligent questions to get to the root of their misunderstanding.
They know not how to be supportive, only to cut you down.
It makes them feel better to put others down.
Secretly, they are freakin' jealous.

Today, I am choosing to surround myself with positive, encouraging, supportive people. The haters can find someone else to hate on.

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

BUCKET LIST

Yesterday, I crossed off a major life-list item: I became my own boss!  The LLC package arrived with my paperwork and it was so surreal.  I almost tackled FedEx delivery man on the driveway.

Within hours I even had my first request for employment at SleeveShirt Consulting LLC. Gotta love my supportive peeps.

Stay tuned for updates on my new professional identity, logo, etc.  I will be focusing on marketing consultantcy out of the comfort of my own home.

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

DayCare for Dummies

Seems to me that if you are going to grow up to become the Director of a Daycare there are a few prerequisite courses you should ace before being assigned a license to operate:

1) Email 101: Returning parents emails, not just the first one where they express interest and you see dollar signs.

2) Greetings 202: Smiling goes a long way when you are sitting behind your desk watching parents go in and out of your daycare to drop off/pick up your kids.  Drop the blackberry and give me a little wave.

3) Greetings 203: Introduction to Small Talk.  I get it. You see hundreds of parents a day. But if I'm a parent and I'm new to the center, it's the least that you could do to try to get to know me a little better before you cash  my CHECK each week.

Right now it's sad that the only thing keeping me here is that we're there part time, 2 half days a week and Natalie is getting a lot out of it.  If we bump up to FT or more days, I may bolt.

Monday, September 28, 2009

Social(ly awkward) Networking

Still getting the hang of Twitter, week one. I jumped on the bandwagon only after a family member said I posted too frequently to my Facebook page. I'm sorry Andy, but if my posts were the majority of your FB feeds, then you know what? You need more friends. And the friends you have are BORING.

Too give Andy a break, I think he befriended me on a day I was complaining about a bad hair day. Next time, my dog had just stolen garlic bread off the table and we were eagerly waiting to find out where she would puke. Ok, not my finest FB moments. (and he let me know it).

But, as I strive to be witty on my posts I don't always get there. I think that's why I like Twitter. You don't get much back from the Universe, its just out there. Yes, I had pumpkin pie at 9:40am this morning. If I had posted that to FB, my mom would have been ON me. But thankfully she can only handle one social networking site - and to be honest, she still doesn't have a picture up, so she's not that far along on "spacebook" (as my father in law calls it).

A few of the new people I'm choosing to follow on Twitter:
Bob Harper- if he were following me, he would have been really pissed about the pie.
Oprah- you can tell she doesn't really want to be Tweeting, but I can't ever get enough from her.
Ashton Kutcher- don't know what he's saying half the time, but he's entertaining for now.
Ellen- when IDOL kicks off, I'm sure her posts will be FUN
you? Befriend me: MamaSleeveShirt

See you in the Twitterverse!

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Fort Mill, SC

Received some unexpected flack upon returning home from vacation. Apparently, with a few drinks in me, I did nothing but slam my new hometown of Fort Mill, SC.

I recalled a few instances when I was doing so- but since the hubby wasn't in the car, it must have meant that I was doing it a lot during the week. Little jabs, here and there, but enough to panic my husband that we have made a HUGE mistake in moving here.

Argh. Sorry.

I couldn't take back what I said- and after reflecting upon it, I really didn't have a different opinion. I have lived in more place than most (but less than my military friends).

Long Island, NY- more specifically, East Northport, NY. Born and raised. It's where a lot of family still remains. Robert Moses Beach #5 during the summers. Romantic moments on the pier at Northport Harbor. My first tattoo in Centereach. Cruising Deer Park avenue (what the hell were we looking for when we were cruising?) We go back about once a year, but the traffic and thick LI accents usually have us rolling our eyes within minutes. Like to visit- especially when we can swing through Manhattan, but don't ever want to live there again.

Washington DC metro- Arlington, Alexandria. Be still my heart. I look back so fondly during this time. I was a newlywed. We got our first apartment. We bought our first house...Adopted a dog. Had my share of bad jobs, and bad commutes, but driving past the monuments on my way to work was always special. I even found it hard to complain about getting stuck behind a motorcade because..How freaking cool that I just saw President Jimmy Carter? Or when I saw Muhammad Ali by the metro...or Newt Gingrich and Cokie Roberts in the parking garage?? George Stefanapolous is really, really short. Heck, I could go on and on. I also met my best friend during this time. Next year will be our 10 yr friendship anniversary. WOW. Being in DC means you are on the pulse of the nation and the world. One of the things I miss the most is the evening news. I felt so wordly. Where I am now- you hear about the man arrested for having sex with his horse. (I wish I were joking).

Cary, NC- this was an unexpected move. We were settled in our jobs/life in DC. I was preggers, and a job offer came up that we couldn't pass up. I had planned to keep working after baby when we were still in DC- but it almost seemed like perfect timing to stop work at 7 months, move to a new city, set up a new house and nest. This is where we brought home our daughter. Installed a fabulous bird feeder that we could watch from our breakfast nook and met a lot of very cool friends. I don't know what I would have done without some of the ladies I met after giving birth- being a stay at home mom was so different and so challenging. We really relied on each other for sanity. We nested in Cary for almost 4 years before our next move.

Fort Mill, SC - or as I like to say, Charlotte, NC- because that would mean that we've at least stayed in NORTH Carolina as opposed to South. Truly we're 2-3 miles south of the border. I do most of my shopping, errands in NC, but SC just gives me the willies a bit. The job opportunity was the grandest of all- a great way to catapult hubby's job into a high profile career. Plus it married his talents with his favorite hobby: Cars. He is challenged but he's also fulfilled. Who could ask for more? Well, me I guess.

I've dropped a job each time we've made a move. My very first job out of college when we got married. Then my Ad agency job in DC. Then the high paying pharmaceutical job with the good benefits. Sheesh. Does anyone see a pattern here? Right now I'm playing the part of Suzie-homemaker. Clipping coupons, making crafts, keeping a preschooler busy, trying not to spend money, wishing I still could afford to get my hair cut at a really nice salon. But we've traded.

My goals are to do more in the city of Charlotte- explore more, see what else there is to offer. It won't ever replace DC in my heart, but its home (for now...)

Sunday, August 16, 2009

Ice cream anti-social

What could be more friendly? Ice cream, balloons, kids? Today we attended a family event in our clubhouse as one last hurrah for those kids going back to school tomorrow (WOW..they go back early in the South).

As if we were magnets, the Grumps (grumpy family that we keep running into), pulled their golf cart right next to our minivan in the parking lot. First strike.

The event room was done really cute- Nat was excited. After a quick "Hi My Name is.." application we headed straight for the ice cream table. And then we stood uncomfortably for 20 minutes until we planned our escape.

I should really speak for myself. My hubby could talk to a wall and make a new friend, but something about this event just had me running for the hills. Natalie was more than friendly. Even tapped the severly crippled girl who joined her at her table to ensure she knew she was saying 'hello!' I scanned the room. Saw no familiar faces except for the Grumps (who I had enough with during swimming lessons this summer, and who I already know we'll be seeing at Ballet..argh).

I don't know what it is about making new friends in my 30s that bugs me out so much. For one thing, I feel like my friend quota is filled. I have family up the whazoo in our neighborhood, a good rapport with long-distance cousins, and some really close BFFs to rely on. Do I need to befriend these neighborhood moms and dads? Were there any in the room that were feeling as out of place as I was?

My only comfort was knowing that when we departed that my new bottle of wine should have chilled by now...

Thursday, July 9, 2009

Arrivals

Refresh, refresh, refresh.

The JetBlue home page is going to boot me off any second because I keep checking on Colleen and Jacks arrival.

Very excited to have the two of them for a long weekend-- and to see the little man crawl! Nana is going be even more excited than me-- she talks about her great-grandkids all the time.

Outlet covers installed...check. Small toys (mostly) out of reach...check. Stocked fridge...check.
I'm READY!